Wedding is itself a big decision that comes with loads of responsibilities and expectations, from both ends. Once the honeymoon period is over and you begin to settle down in your new role as the biwi and bahu of the household its only normal for you to feel the pang of the wedding blues. However, you must realize that probably your spouse is going through the same phase, since, it’s a big responsibility on him too. Small adjustments from both ends can do magic to your relationship and strengthen it to last a lifetime.
Innovative ideas & not adjustments
Be innovative with how you show your love and affection to your new family. This is very important as they also need to realize that you care for them. If you are a working woman then you might as well take a note of what your husband and in-laws like the most and buy them something they will appreciate. May be a beautiful saree for your mother-in-law or a sleek pair of earrings for your sister-in-law will surely make them happy and make your husband also feel proud of his choice.
Be your hubby’s buddy
You might as well invite your husband’s friends and colleagues with their wives and kids for a weekend lunch or dinner occasion. With this, your husband will be happy to see you take an interest in people close to him. He will also realize that you are actively trying to be a part of his life.
Understand your new family
Be friendly with your in-laws and chat more often with your brother-in-law or sister-in-law, especially, if they are the younger ones in the family. This way they will come to rely on you more and will consider you as a family member.
Plan smart family weekends
Become the favourite bahu and Bhabhi at home with some smart enjoyment ideas. You can organize fun filled weekend trips like picnics to remote locations in the city or plan for a family movie, shopping and lunch or dinner day on weekends. These are great ways to boost everyone emotionally and create stronger bonding.
Listening is great virtue
Listening to your family members is very important. Most of us don’t consider it as a criteria for adjustment but with little patience and wit, you can win hearts and with unnecessary recklessness you can break hearts.
Happiness is contagious
Happiness is like a fragrance, the more you spread it, the more it goes on to beautify other people’s lives. When you are happy and chirpy at home, the chances are that people in your family will be happy too. This also brings in a breath of freshness and positivity in the house. Take your mother-in-law and father-in-law for morning walks or go out jogging with your sister-in-law. This will give you more time to gel with them.
Lastly, be thoughtful towards the needs, liking and expectations of your new family. Right thoughts have the power to fix anything and everything and marriage is a delicate responsibility where both the partners must contribute.