Celebrating Parul Tyagi’s Third Book- “69 Things I Wish I Knew Before Getting Married”

• By WeddingPlz
• May 3rd, 2016
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Dynamic, young and fearless, these three words accurately define Parul Tyagi’s writing style but loving, caring and positive describe her as a mother in her life. A marketer by profession, an MBA from MICA but a writer by heart, Parul Tyagi’s love for writing dates back to her college days where she eventually realised her dream i.e. to write. Currently married to her college sweetheart with two sons, her latest book is out and we are here to know more about it from her.



1.How does one define Parul Tyagi , the communication professional, the writer or the mother?
–Once you are a Mum, you are that before everything else. Having said that, I would like to say that although being a mother is the strongest aspect of my existence, it doesn’t take away the other facets that make me. I am a professional and writing is what I enjoy doing the most.
–If I am not fulfilled, I will fail to even be a good Mom. The biggest responsibility that any parent has towards their children is to lead by example. I have to show my sons that I made no compromises with my passions even while keeping them at the center of my every thing.


2.The title got us so curious, why did you name the book “69 things i knew before marriage” and what inspired you to write this book?
–Well, we all know why 69 was chosen for the title. The single thread of inspiration was my own marriage. I married a friend of mine and I was amazed how people thought it would have been a cake walk for us. For us, marriage has never hindered any thing.
–It has only made us better human beings. I have used writing as a means to tell people that if one has any doubt that marriage is over rated- read me.


3.Your previous two books, “Hurry Om Hari” and “Love will find a way”, delve deeply into human relationships… based on this , who do you think is more responsible for making a marriage work, a husband or wife?
–In both my earlier books I have stressed on how love is all about a good partnership and the belief that if we truly are in love, nothing can beat us. I believe in many ways this thought is integral to this Non Fiction book of mine. Marriage cannot work if one feels/acts/asserts oneself to be a better one.
–There is a full chapter dedicated to this idea where I have reiterated that to live in a false self pride that our partner couldn’t have found a better person than us is absolutely rubbish. You have to both work towards making your marriage work. If it was only either a man or a woman doing it, it would not be a marriage- lets call it something else. Not marriage 🙂


4.Tell us about some fun and candid moments that you had with your husband while writing this book?
–So my husband didn’t read the manuscript. Not that he had no time or he never reads my manuscripts but simply because he wanted to retain the excitement of how I perceive my marriage and wished to read it all when the book is out.
–Though, every time he troubled me during my writing process, I would warn him- “This will go into the book dude”. But to tell you the truth, such tricks do not work on him. He is too sorted in life to do anything under pressure or fear.


5.Is this book only beneficial for people getting married or for anyone who reads it?
–Great that you asked this. This book is not only meant for those who are about to get married. Of course it will help you if you read it right before taking the plunge as my experiences can help you to not make at least the mistakes I made unknowingly.
–Also, it doesn’t matter if you are newly married, married for 5, 10 or 40 years. This book will let you identify with some, all or most of the points as you realize how you are not alone when it comes to certain situations. In fact, married readers are telling me how they feel they can improve upon their relationships even now after reading.
–It also doesnt matter if you are a boy or a girl. This book is not giving you tips or tricks to overpower the other one. It is an account of how little things become too big in our heads when we are married and small efforts can make us the happiest married couple there can ever be.


6.We know that all #69 reasons that you mentioned in the book are super important, but which are your Top 3 Reasons!
–The points are all contextual. I would say the favorites would keep changing basis topical circumstances. But if I had to pick the absolute three that one should stick by, lets say:
1) There are three rules to a happy marriage. For every marriage they are different.
2) Handle with care- The Egos.
3) Give it time.


7.Would things be different today for you if you had read your own book before you got married?
–For one, what would have I written now ! Secondly, I did learn a lot while being on the job and for instance if I had read how important the extended family or compulsory lunches at their places are- I would have cribbed lesser 😉


8.Did the thought of being a bride ever make you feel nervous before your wedding? How did you handle it?
–Oh yes! I remember worrying that I would fall down while walking up to my husband for the Jaimala. Had asked my brother to be around to save me the embarrassment.
–I was nervous about everything- the new family, leaving my parent’s home forever, shifting to a totally alien part of the city et all but I clearly remember when Saurabh(my husband) and I stood on the elevated stage where we were to exchange garlands and I was shaking, Saurabh whispered: “Look around you.
–So many people have come. Looks like we are in a rally!” I was perplexed that what the hell is he bothered about but when I actually looked down there were I think 1000 guests all cheering us to get over the jaimala. That brought such a huge smile on my face and in a way Saurabh did help in melting my jitters. Like he always did, does and will 🙂


9.We loved the quotes that were there in the book! And all of them had a lot of humour content in it. Any special reason for that?
–Whats life without some sense of humor? It is easier to sail past laughing than sulking. Those quotes have been specially chosen from many just to let the readers know that what they actually thought happens only to them, has already been written about by a someone else earlier.
–Basically we are all in the same boat 🙂


10. What would be your one single golden advice for all our young weddingplz brides and grooms who are about to get hitched soon?
–Marriage is a beautiful union. The only one thing that makes it work is your love for your partner. Keep that love above all else and there is nothing more fulfilling than marriage then.


In this book, Parulattempts to dispel the popular fear-induced myths around the institution of marriage.She herself mentions that this book is not a sob story, a boring lecture, a never-ending self help guide or a preach rant.It is a list of 69 points that will throw light on what to expect, what to accept so all you see is ascent in marriage and not eject out of it!.

You Can Now Grab Your Very Own Copy Of 69 Things I Wish I Knew Before Getting Married – Here!

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